Random

1. Thank you Blogger for fixing the comments debacle between beta and non-beta users. I take back every bad thing I said about you in the last two weeks.
2. I wish my MSN Spaces friends would just get Blogger accounts. It would just be easier.
3. Every once in awhile, my site meter makes me laugh, particularly when I see how people get to my site. For example, I'm the #2 listing for "youtube barry manilow (bermuda triangle)" on Google.

Finally, and a bit more seriously, there is a person out there who I don't know at all (she's commented once on my site) but has me at the top of her blogroll (I think because it is in alphabetical order). I am flattered and grateful anytime anyone puts me on their roll.

But the other day I was reading her site and her entry that day was a tirade against her boss who she clearly doesn't like. Nothing wrong with that per se, but she called her boss a "faggot" twice. This is where it gets tricky, no?

I think most all of us use derogatory terms among our friends (I use the "f" word among my gay friends sometimes and lord knows I've called female friends "bitches" to their faces, so on and so forth) and sometimes you'll hear a comedian use a racist/sexist/homophobic term for a reaction (most often resulting in a humorous outcome).

The point being, neither me nor my friends have problems calling us these names because we know each other well enough to know our intentions by using such terms: the irony (and humor) of me calling a gay man a faggot is because I myself am a gay man; the irony of me calling a friend a racist term comes from the fact that I am not myself a racist. Etc., etc.

Maybe this person has a bunch of gay friends and uses the "f" word all the time in a manner not meant to offend her audience, and maybe I've become an eavesdropper among her circle of friends and don't know her well enough to assume the worst. I am no prude, or PC-ist, or overly-sensitive person so my first inclination is to let it slide.

But then there's this other side of me that wants to email her and write "Btw, I'm guessing you don't like homos based on your use of the word 'faggot' to describe a guy you don't like. As a 'faggot' myself, you may want to take me off your blogroll since you must not really like me all that much. Or better yet, please remove me from your list since I don't really want anything to do with you or your site."

Or maybe I'm just over-thinking everything per usual. Maybe the person in question, who I think reads me on a regular basis, could respond and let me know her thoughts.